Thursday, February 25, 2021

I'm Training for the Centenarian Olympics

     




    My entire life, I have had a strong connection to my great grandmother—Peewee as she was nicknamed.  She lived to be 102 years old.  She and I  have several things in common  (our tastes in  perfume, our love of bacon and eggs, our height  [don’t laugh], we are both the mother of twins) and as long as I can remember, I’ve told my kids that I’m going to live to be 102 just like Peewee.  But I always assumed that I would get there on sheer luck and awesome French genes that I inherited from her.

I remember talking to my grandmother (one  of Peewee’s twin daughters) a few weeks before her 90th birthday.  She told me about how she does her “stretches” every day. I said, “Mere, (pronounced “mare” which is French for mother), what do you mean you do ‘stretches’ every day?” She replied, “you know, my stretches.”  Turns out my grandmother did yoga every day for almost 50 years.  When I talked to her on her 90th birthday I asked her if she did her “stretches”. She said, “You know, Allyson, I woke up and said—I’m 90 today, I can’t skip them.  But then I realized that the reason I’m 90 and can still do them is because I do them every day so today’s no different.”  And while my grandmother did not make it to 100 like her mother did, I started thinking maybe I need to start planning for the long game and how I’m going to be able to break the century  mark.

 Years later, I  listened to a podcast wherein Dr. Peter Attia (a well known physician who focuses on the applied science of longevity) described how he has changed his focus from extreme exercise to what he describes as the Centenarian Olympics.  He has compiled a list of tasks he wants to be able to do when he is 100 years old.  Being inspired (and believing I’m going to crack the century mark myself), I made a list as well.  Here are a few of my  “events”.[1]  

·      get off the floor with little support

·      pull myself out of a pool

·      walk up and down three flights of stairs with something in your hands

·      touch my toes 

·      stand on one foot with your eyes closed for 30 seconds

·      do the 4-7-8 breath[2] 5 times without gasping

·      get in and out of a tall car/bed without help

·      stand up from a seated position without using your hands

 

Dr. Mark Hyman, American physician and founder of the UltraWellness Center said it perfectly, “My goal is to die young at a very old age.”

Making it to Triple Digits

         Life expectancies in developed and developing  countries have been rising, causing the number of centenarians to rise as well.  In 2020, the number of centenarians rose to approximately 573,000 worldwide. That is over four times as many as in 1990.  And the predicted growth is only accelerating.  There is evidence that shows that by 2050, there may be 3.7 million centenarians across the globe

         Right now, the United  States has the most centenarians with  about 97,000 living in  the U.S.  Japan comes in second with 79,000 and home to the oldest known living person,Kane Tanaka who is 117 years old, which  also makes her a supercentenarian  (someone who is older than 110).[3]  Japan  is also the country with the highest rate of centenarians at 4.8 for every  10,000 people (while the US is at 2.2 centenarians for every 10,000 people)

The bad news is that as we age, our body becomes less flexible.  Being less flexible can cause instability and stiffness and make us become less stable.  Sarcopenia (muscle loss) and osteopenia (bone loss) are common results of aging as well.  The good news is that we can do exercises that keep us more flexible and keep our bones healthier for longer.  

There’s a reason why no one wants  to buy a 10 year old used car with 200,000 miles on it.  It’s because there’s a high chance some of the parts have been worn out and need replacing and the car will never work the same as a brand new model.  Same thing with  a human body.  Overdoing physical activity at a certain age can do the same thing to our joints and tissues.  And we can’t ever get back that same spring we had as a spry young chicken (I’m pretty sure I just aged myself with that sentence).  

Conversely, you also don’t want to buy that car that’s been sitting in the driveway (or the front lawn—you know you were thinking it too)  collecting dust and that hasn’t been turned on in 5 years—because that too will cause damage to the car.  Same with a sedentary human body.  Muscles, joints and bones need to be moved to work correctly.  

How to Train for the Centenarian Olympics

According to Dr. Attia, there are four pillars of physical training that he recommends for his patients regardless of the goals or events that you plan on showcasing in your personal centenarian Olympics:

Stability

When we get older, our body’s systems that detect gravity, identify exact body positioning and promote balance and stability become less effective.  These declines increase your risk of falling, but they often occur alongside losses in muscle strength and mobility.  Put this all together and it is easy to see why falls are the number one cause of injuries among older Americans according to the National Council on Aging.  [4].  

Strength

Stronger muscles equal a longer life.   This is the conclusion of one study in theAmerican Journal  of Medicine that shows muscle mass is an indicator of longevity and health in older adults.  However, as we age, we lose muscle mass (sarcopenia) so we have to work harder at maintaining our muscle strength.  In fact, we start to lose muscle mass at age 40 and it accelerates at age 50.  The great news here is that our bodies are so amazing that muscle loss can actually be reversed.  The take home is—it’s never too late to get muscle mass.  

Aerobic Efficiency

Aerobic Efficiency is the measure of your body’s ability to create energy through the combustion of carbohydrates, amino acids and fats in the presence of oxygen.  Aerobic exercise is essential for longevity in that (among other things), it keeps your muscles strong, reduces the risks of such conditions as obesity, heart disease and diabetes, keeps your arteries clear, boosts your mood as well as keeping your mind sharp

Anaerobic Efficiency

Anaerobic efficiency on the other hand is the measure of your body’s ability to create energy through the combustion of carbohydrates in the absence of oxygen.  When there is not enough oxygen in the bloodstream, glucose and glycogen cannot be fully broken down to carbon dioxide and water.  Instead, lactic acid  is produced, which can build up in the muscles and degrade muscle function.  Aging has a greater impact on our body’s anaerobicendurance which means that there is a greater risk of injury for certain activities that require anaerobic activity as we age.  

Why Should We Care if We Can Participate in these Centenarian Olympics?

         This article is not mean to tell you how to get to be 100 years old.  There are several really great articles out there that focus on what factors you should look at in order to live to be 100[5][6][7].  Rather, the purpose of this article is to make you think about what do you (and you as in really you not the universal ‘you’) need to work on that would help you be where you need to be in terms of activities when you reach 100.  My list focuses on survival and being able to be self-sufficient.  

·      If I can stand on one leg with my eyes closed at 77, I’m helping my balance and I’m teaching my brain to work without my eyesight (in case I continue on this path to wear glasses at all times or even in the dark).  

·      If I can touch my toes, then if I drop something when I’m 88 years old, I can pick it up off the floor and don’t need to call for help.  

·      If I can do the breathing exercises when I’m 99, my lung capacity is such that I can be better equipped to ward off common colds and pneumonia.  I

·    If I can lift myself up from a seated position or off the floor, it can help prevent falls and all those ER visits we talked about earlier.  


    So, it’s not really  about being super fit and running marathons at 100, rather, if we start to “train” our bodies to last longer now, we can head off certain problems before they happen.


So What Now?

The short answer is—a little of everything.  As in—if you lift weights, go for a walk and do some yoga.  If you do yoga, do some HIIT classes.  And so on.  That’s the “bad” news—you need more of what you’re not getting.  The good news though is—you don’t need a lot of it.  When we are in our 20’s we think we need to push ourselves and “feel the burn” in order to make exercise count.  But in your 40’s too much of a good thing is a bad thing.  A little goes a long way in terms of stability and strength as we age.  Bottom line—just keep moving and doing and get a variety of exercise that works on stability, strength, and aerobic and anaerobic activities. 

         And come see me and say hi in 40 or 50 years—I’ll still be here.  


 

Allyson Brupbacher was born and raised in New Orleans until she enrolled and then graduated from University of Houston Law School in 1997.  She has been practicing family law for over 20 years.  She is board certified in family law and a licensed mediator. She has been practicing yoga for about 5 years and made a dream come true when she became a certified yoga instructor RYT 200 in June 2020.  She lives in Houston, Texas.  She describes herself as a lawyer, mother and badass but not necessarily in that order.  She also calls herself the yoga lawyer.  Her background provides a unique perspective to help parties in the middle of a divorce.  If you are in need of a divorce coach, contact her at www.coachingbyallyb.com or email at allyb@coachingbyallyb.com or follow her on Instagram  (@txyogalawyer, @yogalawyer1123, @coachingbyallyb, @texasdivorcecoach) Facebook (@txyogalawyer and @coachingbyallyb) and Twitter (@coachingbyallyb).  And visit her blog-- https://coachingbyallyb.blogspot.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



[1] I plan to post a more comprehensive list on my podcast in the near future.

[2] I will also have a podcast and blog on why this breathing technique is so helpful.

[3] The oldest person to ever live was Jeanne Louise Calment  (b. 21  Feb 1875) from Arles, France who died at the age of 122 years and 164 days old.  

[4] Every 11 seconds an older adult is treated in the ER  for a fall; every 19 minutes an older  adult dies from a fall

[5] Sally Wadyka, Simple Rules to Follow if you Want to Live to 100, The Health Newsletter, May 2019

[6] Diana Licalzi, Science-Backed Habits Live Past 100: Lessons from the Blue Zones, InsideTracker, October 2020

[7] Rachel Swalin, 10 Ways to Live to 100, Health.com, February 2021

Sunday, January 17, 2021

A Different Look at How to Live a Mindful Life (aka Being a Type A Personality AND being Zen, Yes, there is such a thing)

 



A Different Look at How to Live a Mindful Life (aka Being Type A AND being Zen—yes, there is such a thing)

 

If you google “how to live a mindful  life” you’ll see hundreds of articles about how to meditate and the scientific benefits of mediation.  And that is fabulous because I truly believe that meditation is a great tool (once you figure out that it is not about having a blank mind—but that’s a topic for another day—see blog on Monkeys, Lizards and Spiderman and How They Help You Meditate).  

 

I believe there is another way to live a mindful life.  And the reason I believe this is because it has taken me decades to think that someone like me (a very  type A personality) can be mindful.  Before recently, I believed being mindful was reserved for yoga instructors and monks (and maybe really calm people who only exist in movies).  Never did I think you could juggle multiple “jobs” (a career, being a parent, volunteer work, being a spouse, friendships, etc.)  and be mindful.  But….there  is a way.  And it’s not nearly  as elusive as a pink fairy armadillo  (oh, that’s a real thing.  Look it up.)

 

Three Habits of a Type A Mindful Person:  This  is not scientifically backed but rather based on years and  years of my observations in my career as a family law mediator and divorce coach as well as my own personal journey to achieve a mindful life.




 No. 1: People Who Lead a Mindful Life Hold thoughts Lightly

 

Being a lawyer I was trained  to provide empirical evidence or a counter-argument to each argument that came my way.  I thought I was supposed to take in all information, process  it and then spit out some sort of response or reply.  But that is exhausting.  Not every thought is worthy of our time  or needs a response. And  when you feel the need  to give all thoughts meaning and purpose, you become a slave to everything that people say to you and you give value to opinions  of others that may not be worthy.  I learned that mindful people consistently monitor their  thoughts as they  arise  and then hold those thoughts lightly.  This is a two-fold process.  

 

They monitor their thoughts.  This process  of self-observation allows them to  “watch” what comes in.  The only way to achieve this monitoring  is to slow down and  to be aware of the thought process as well as doing an internal “self-check”.  When a person monitors  their thoughts and can step back to watch what these thoughts mean, they also have the ability to not be so reactive.  Being able to  independently look at these thoughts requires insight to their own personality and a high EQ or emotional intelligence otherwise, the thoughts that come in would be meaningless.  

 

Hold thoughts lightly.  What does it  mean to hold thoughts lightly?  It means that when a thought comes in, a person doesn’t blindly believe that thought  nor do they take  it  too seriously.  It also means that a person questions the thought to determine whether or not the thought serves a purpose to them.  This process requires a person to pause, take a real look at the  thought and then process it rather than react to it.  The person who holds their thoughts lightly, become the “master” of their thoughts rather than a prisoner to them.  

 

How you can you practice holding thoughts lightly?  You can practice holding your thoughts lightly by prioritizing the information that  you process.  Not everything  deserves space in your head.  And if it doesn’t deserve space, try to let it go and not let it take up your time.  I joke that I don’t understand how people have the time to argue with other people on social media.  It seems counter-productive to allow strangers to take up space in your day and to get you worked up over a complete stranger’s opinion.  Why let that consume even a second of  your time?  But think of other thoughts in the same way.  Do they serve a purpose? Only if they do, let them in  and  then let them out and don’t dwell on them.  I know this is easier said than done in many circumstances but….practice it.  Just in  small ways. Let  things go  without another word or thought if it won’t make a difference in your life in a  meaningful way.

 



No. 2: People Who Lead a Mindful Life are in the Driver’s  Seat  

 

When I started practicing family law, I thought a lot of my job was putting out fires.  I would  walk in the office knowing I only had a few things that  I must accomplish for the day but most of my day would be spent responding to other attorneys, or responding to clients or responding to rulings by judges.  Again, living like this was exhausting.  You are constantly on high alert ready to dodge the next problem being lobbed at you.  But then I started my new plan of having a morning routine and my mantra that if you own the morning, you own  the day.  I learned that mindful people are people that are in the driver’s seat rather than the passenger  seat.  They are people who make things happen in their day rather than react to what happens to them.  And the great news is that type A personalities like myself are used to being  in charge.  The problem that tends  to happen to type  A personalities is that they are impatient and get frustrated so they rush and don’t take the time to focus on one thing at a time.  They tend to multitask.  While putting yourself in the driver’s seat takes  some time to manage and cultivate, it actually lends itself to give you more time in the day because you make the choice to set the plan for the day not waiting around to see what others want of you.

 

How can you practice being a driver rather than a passenger in your life?  The easiest way to accomplish this  is by having a routine where you lay out your day.  That may consist  of keeping a goals’  journal (which is my preferred method) or a realistic “to do” list or just to make conscious choices to be in charge of your day.  Of course there can easily be surprise things that happen in the day but when you start the day knowing you are  in charge, it makes it easier to  pivot and adjust when necessary.




No. 3: People Who Lead a Mindful Life Have Purpose (in daily tasks)

 

How many times have you gotten to work and realized that you can’t even remember the car ride getting you there?  Or you are watching TV and you space out? Or doing one task but thinking about  the  one you need to do tomorrow?  (I already know the answer, it happens to us all.)  I’ve noticed that mindful people don’t just look at these daily mundane activities  as just boring chores, they stay  present in  the tasks.  Instead of rushing through the task, mindful people put purpose  into it and actually  “savor” or look forward  to the task.  They stay present in the  task and make it more like a ritual than a burden.  Take the fishmongers at  Pike Place  Fish Market for example.  Cleaning and selling fish doesn’t seem like most people’s dream job.  And in 1986, the market was close  to bankruptcy until they introduced the practice of fish throwing and interacting with customers out from behind the counters.  Now they are world famous and attract 10,000 visitors daily.  They made  a conscious choice to make their daily “tasks” into something that has purpose and meaning to them and  something they can enjoy and look forward to.  And they made money doing  it.  Mindful people do exactly the  same thing.  They see opportunity rather than drudgery.  

 

How can you see purpose in your daily tasks?  Well, you can globally try to realize that all tasks have meaning  and look  for the best in all you do but….that seems really overly daunting to  start (or maybe it just seems like a little too much for  me to do in a day).  So perhaps start with something small—do something during your commute that you look forward to—listen to a podcast, listen to an audio book, get a great playlist together that helps you start the day, call a friend/family member  and reconnect.  This will have  you be more  present in what  you are doing  and  it has more meaning than just getting you to where you need  to be. Thich Nhat Hanh devotes an entire chapter of his book The Miracle of Mindfulness to Exercises in Mindfulness wherein he describes exactly how you can find mindfulness and wonder  in every day tasks.[1]

 

Now that you know the secrets to attaining and living a mindful life, go forth and own the day!!

 



Allyson Brupbacher was born and raised in New Orleans until she enrolled and then graduated from University of Houston Law School in 1997.  She has been practicing family law for over 20 years.  She is board certified in family law and a licensed mediator. She has been practicing yoga for about 5 years and made a dream come true when she became a certified yoga instructor RYT 200 in June 2020.  She lives in Houston, Texas.  She describes herself as a lawyer, mother and badass but not necessarily in that order.  She also calls herself the yoga lawyer.  Her background provides a unique perspective to help parties in the middle of a divorce.  If you are in need of a divorce coach, contact her at www.coachingbyallyb.com or email at allyb@coachingbyallyb.com or follow her on Instagram  (@txyogalawyer, @yogalawyer1123, @coachingbyallyb, @texasdivorcecoach) Facebook (@txyogalawyer and @coachingbyallyb) and Twitter (@coachingbyallyb).  And visit her blog--https://coachingbyallyb.blogspot.com

 

 

 

 

 



[1] The  Miracle of Mindfulness An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation by Thich Nhat Hanh, Beacon Press 1975.

Spiders, Monkeys, and Lizards and How They Help You Meditate

Spiders, Monkeys and Lizards and How They Help You Meditate

 


Reasons You Should be Meditating

 

Everyone tells you how good it is to meditate.  Even Netflix has a Guide to Meditation and tells you all the  scientific reasons that meditation is good for you.   And it is.  Meditation:

  • ·      Reduces Stress
  • ·      Controls Anxiety
  • ·      Promotes Emotional Health
  • ·      Enhances Self-Awareness
  • ·      Lengthens Attention Span
  • ·      Reduces Age-Related  Memory Loss
  • ·      Improves Sleep
  • ·      Helps Control Pain
  • ·      Decreases Blood Pressure




But…it doesn’t help if you can’t figure out how to get to that state of bliss and clarity.  And I tried and tried.  I started yoga  and actually dreaded savasana because I felt so out of place.  I kept have the same thoughts running  through my  mind—what am I missing here?  Why can’t I get this?

 




All the Many  Ways to Reach Zen-Ness

 

So, if you are like me,  you researched  the different types of meditation because maybe you just  need to try a different one and then you’ll be able to be  a member  of the cool zen  club, right?.  I found out and looked into many different kinds of meditation, like:

Blamed it on the Monkeys and Lizards

 

I tried several versions.  Okay—practically all of them.  But the same thing was happening.  I could not turn off my monkey brain.  Never heard of your monkey brain?  Well, here’s the a quick lesson--Our brains can be separated into 3 sections:  our reptile brain (lizard brain), our primate brain  (monkey brain) and  our mammal brain  (human brain).  


Briefly, our lizard brain is the oldest part of the brain and found at the base of the  brain.  It  is our reptilian brain that controls our most basic instincts like our fight, flight, flee  or freeze responses.  The second part is the monkey brain which controls more complex tasks and emotions.  The third part is the human brain which allows for logical, rational thoughts and is free of emotional thinking and allows for delayed gratification.  When we multi-task, we are using  our monkey brain.  The monkey brain becomes distracted easily and makes you unsettled, restless and confused.  

 

I found it so difficult to shut down my monkey brain and remain in the present.  I knew  it was something I wasn’t doing right.  So (because  I’m a lawyer and  a Type-A  personality) I did even more research.




 Tell me How to Meditate

 

I read books and downloaded several apps and tried and tried.  In  fact, I have linked several great ones that I suggest you try out.  I mean, I hope you are reading this  and think  to yourself—what the heck is wrong  with her?  This meditation thing is easy-peasy.  (I mean, I do hope that  but  I  would  also  be super envious if being mindful came so easily when  I’ve worked and worked at it).  Because for years, I’ve done exactly what I’m “supposed” to  do and my mediation practice  is haphazard  at best.  I’ve tried the following  tips:

  • ·      Find a quiet place
  • ·      Meditation mats and cushions
  • ·      Focus on my breath
  • ·      Use guided mediations
  • ·      Start with  only a  few minutes per  day
  • ·      Try different types of meditation
  • ·      Don’t judge yourself
  • ·      Don’t worry about clearing your mind

 

It’s the last one there—don’t worry about clearing your mind that was my Achilles’ heel.  Because the more I tried to not worry, the more I worried.  It kept getting worse and worse.  I even went to a 2 day meditation seminar.  I loved it and it really was helpful  but….still, it was clear I was not getting it like everyone else in the room.  I had to “fake” it and pretend that I was now enlightened.


Spiderman and how I finally figured it out

 

For years,  I’ve done some form of “meditation” but it never stuck  because I was still floundering and either falling asleep or using that time to go over my to do list or just sit there and counting my breaths.  No enlightenment. No sweet spot.  Nada.  Until I watched Spiderman.  Yep—your friendly neighborhood spiderman.  It was that scene where Peter Parker first gets his spidey senses.  Where he is so in the moment  that he notices the flapping of the bee’s wings, that he can hear the paper airplane being thrown and notice the liquid on the floor ALL at the same  time.  It wasn’t that he shut ALL those things out  of his mind, it was the opposite—he took it ALL in and just registered them and was totally in  the moment.  (Lightbulb moment. Literally, enlightenment right here in a Marvel Comic.)  


 

Mediation (for me at least) can be that place not where I empty  my brain of all the distractions but  where I take it all in  and acknowledge it at  the same time.  (Holy crap, that’s powerful, right?!)  It is a place where you just be.  If you hear a noise, it’s not  a distraction it’s a super power.  If you feel a sensation, it’s not a  hinderance it’s an awareness.  If you have a thought, its not  an interruption it’s an insight.  So, for me, meditation is no longer scary or elusive.  As a type A personality, I can handle taking information in and listening to it.  It’s actually something I look forward to.  In my Pre-Dawn blog, I talk about just sitting in the quiet and listening to my house and all the noises before everyone gets up and how comforting it is.  Voila!  Meditation! And just like that—this Olympian multi-tasker with an ADHD monkey brain can enter the world of mindfulness.  Which means….yep, you knew this was coming--- so can you!

 



Look for my blog on meditation and quiet and how it helps us to be creative. Coming soon.

 

Allyson Brupbacher was born and raised in New Orleans until she enrolled and then graduated from University of Houston Law School in 1997.  She has been practicing family law for over 20 years.  She is board certified in family law and a licensed mediator. She has been practicing yoga for about 5 years and made a dream come true when she became a certified yoga instructor RYT 200 in June 2020.  She lives in Houston, Texas.  She describes herself as a lawyer, mother and badass but not necessarily in that order.  She also calls herself the yoga lawyer.  Her background provides a unique perspective to help parties in the middle of a divorce.  If you are in need of a divorce coach, contact her at www.coachingbyallyb.com or email at allyb@coachingbyallyb.com or follow her on Instagram  (@txyogalawyer, @yogalawyer1123, @coachingbyallyb, @texasdivorcecoach) Facebook (@txyogalawyer and @coachingbyallyb) and Twitter (@coachingbyallyb).  And visit her blog--https://coachingbyallyb.blogspot.com